Comments on: Claim it girl! http://www.integratedmother.com/blog/claim-it-girl/ Making sense of the work-life juggle Sun, 14 Mar 2010 07:47:16 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Felicia (aka Mommy B) http://www.integratedmother.com/blog/claim-it-girl/comment-page-1/#comment-8998 Felicia (aka Mommy B) Sat, 27 Jun 2009 06:30:22 +0000 http://www.integratedmother.com/blog/?p=2134#comment-8998 I love that you're so honest about your struggle with labels and claiming your title even as you morph into new roles and take new challenges. It's crazy how the need for "a title" is so ingrained in us that when we don't have a one at the ready (me for instance, out of work, but still writing, blogging, consulting and mommying) we can feel sort of inadequate. I'm finally learning how to label myself with my personal passion title (professional writer & author who specializes in girl empowerment issues!) rather than my old work title. Glad to see I'm not the only one who's struggled with this. I love that you’re so honest about your struggle with labels and claiming your title even as you morph into new roles and take new challenges.

It’s crazy how the need for “a title” is so ingrained in us that when we don’t have a one at the ready (me for instance, out of work, but still writing, blogging, consulting and mommying) we can feel sort of inadequate. I’m finally learning how to label myself with my personal passion title (professional writer & author who specializes in girl empowerment issues!) rather than my old work title. Glad to see I’m not the only one who’s struggled with this.

]]> By: Kimberly/Mom in the City http://www.integratedmother.com/blog/claim-it-girl/comment-page-1/#comment-8745 Kimberly/Mom in the City Tue, 23 Jun 2009 18:14:56 +0000 http://www.integratedmother.com/blog/?p=2134#comment-8745 Good for you! I was excited to be a stay at home mom for the first year of my oldest son's life (every mom doesn't have that option!) I'm also excited to be at work at home mom. When friends ask if I feel like I'm "wasting" my Columbia education/work background/etc. by my life decisions, I am like "no way". I've never read of anyone wishing that they had spent more time at school/work/etc. on their death beds. Rather, it's the time that they missed with their loved ones that are often causes of regret. I think that as work at home moms, we have the best of both worlds! Good for you! I was excited to be a stay at home mom for the first year of my oldest son’s life (every mom doesn’t have that option!) I’m also excited to be at work at home mom. When friends ask if I feel like I’m “wasting” my Columbia education/work background/etc. by my life decisions, I am like “no way”.

I’ve never read of anyone wishing that they had spent more time at school/work/etc. on their death beds. Rather, it’s the time that they missed with their loved ones that are often causes of regret. I think that as work at home moms, we have the best of both worlds!

]]> By: ginabad http://www.integratedmother.com/blog/claim-it-girl/comment-page-1/#comment-8739 ginabad Tue, 23 Jun 2009 17:29:36 +0000 http://www.integratedmother.com/blog/?p=2134#comment-8739 I related to every single word of this post! My transition was from corporate to consultant to self-employed WAHM to full time employed WAHM. Now I want to make a smarter transition to self-employed writer/marketer WAHM, fixing the naive mistakes I made when I first went into business and becoming more productive as both a freelance and creative writer. And I've already started, so here I'm claiming it: <em>I'm a work-at-home, self-employed writer mom & marketer. </em> Wee! That felt good, thank you!! I related to every single word of this post! My transition was from corporate to consultant to self-employed WAHM to full time employed WAHM. Now I want to make a smarter transition to self-employed writer/marketer WAHM, fixing the naive mistakes I made when I first went into business and becoming more productive as both a freelance and creative writer. And I’ve already started, so here I’m claiming it:

I’m a work-at-home, self-employed writer mom & marketer.

Wee! That felt good, thank you!!

]]> By: Makasha Dorsey http://www.integratedmother.com/blog/claim-it-girl/comment-page-1/#comment-8738 Makasha Dorsey Tue, 23 Jun 2009 17:19:20 +0000 http://www.integratedmother.com/blog/?p=2134#comment-8738 For a while, I told people I was a stay-at-home mom because of the perception that writers are lazy. Then, I found out that many people, especially women in my community (black women), find little or no value in the contributions of homemakers. So, I told people I was a consultant. This way, I could excuse being at home because consultants have flexible schedules. This was not a good idea. Because I had a “flexible” schedule, I turned into the go-to-mom for sick days, doctors’ appointments and such. Recently, I settled into the title of “write-at-home-mom”. My work is writing and being at home with my boys. I am a lot happier and don’t have to explain what I do. For a while, I told people I was a stay-at-home mom because of the perception that writers are lazy. Then, I found out that many people, especially women in my community (black women), find little or no value in the contributions of homemakers. So, I told people I was a consultant. This way, I could excuse being at home because consultants have flexible schedules. This was not a good idea. Because I had a “flexible” schedule, I turned into the go-to-mom for sick days, doctors’ appointments and such.

Recently, I settled into the title of “write-at-home-mom”. My work is writing and being at home with my boys. I am a lot happier and don’t have to explain what I do.

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